I knew from a young age that I wanted to me a Mommy. As an only child all I ever wanted was to have siblings. Once I got married I wanted kids right away but my husband kept telling me I had to wait until we had a house. So, we bought a house and after a lot of time and trying I was blessed with my first little girl. I never had it easy. I have PCOS and conceiving was near to impossible, but somehow it happened for me. After being told I was infertile I showed them all they were wrong and had a total of four healthy, beautiful baby girls. Here is a list of things that no one ever told me about having children :
1. Your heart is worn outside of your body
There is never a time where your heart won't break whether they are 2 or 22. The pain that your child feels you will always feel.
2. Saying goodbye is never easy
It doesn't matter if it is to Grandma's house, the bus stop or a trip to Italy, it is never easy to let your child go. Even to this day watching my two littlest daughters get on the bus makes me very sad.
3. A sleeping child is the most beautiful thing in the world
There is just something about a sleeping child, no matter what age brings you peace.
4. It doesn't get any easier
Just when you think you have got this Motherhood thing in control something else will happen.
5. Each stage has a new problem
Not getting any sleep seems like the worst in the world. Wait until they are 16 and want drive and date and drive in a car of a new driver.
6. Once a Mother, always a Mother
7. You will never get your body back
Remember when you thought you were overweight? You weren't! After having kids it seems that your body will never go back into the shape it was. You get a "mommy pouch" that is almost impossible to get rid of, not to mention all the other down falls....see below.
8. Gravity is not your friend
There is no picture needed for this. Once you start to breast feed they don't tell you that you will never get your boobs back. They sag and they are nothing like what you started with.
9. There is life beyond being a Mom
Until I met other Mommy friends I didn't realize there was more to this whole thing. If you don't have Mommy friends, find some! You need to get out without your kids and be who you really are outside of "Mom. Never loose your identify.
10. There is never, ever any privacy again!
Bathroom, shower, bedroom, changing they are all in the past. You will loose all privacy you have ever known. Peeping eyes will become the norm.
The silver lining: It is the best job you will ever have and the most rewarding.