Sunday, March 27, 2016

I Lost A Friend Today

Happy Easter! I hope this day was blessed for you and your families. We had a beautiful day here in Illinois. It finally is starting to feel like Spring. All four of my girls enjoyed their day and for that I am blessed.

I also got some sad news today. Today I lost a friend. The news just spread a few hours ago but I am still in shock. I went to college with Tony and he was the most kind, generous and giving person I have ever met. He was a mere 45 years young. 

All death impacts us in one way or another, but this one really seemed to hit home for me. I guess because I am only a few years younger than him and he was just too young.

Tony's death made me realize that I am not grateful enough of what I have. I need to stop worrying about everything and enjoy what I have in the moment. I am blessed to have a strong marriage of 18 years and four beautiful, healthy daughters. I am in a bad place with my job right now but I should be grateful that I have a job that offers me benefits that I can take care of my family with. My health is good and I need to start taking better care of myself by eating better and getting my weight down. I need to be around for my baby girls.

I have so much to live for and so much to be grateful for. It is just a shame it takes a death for me to take a step back and realize as much. Life is so precious and we just aren't guaranteed anything.

I have to wrap up. My youngest is asking me to snuggle with her on the couch and this is something I can't pass up. 


Wednesday, March 23, 2016

20 Things Parents Of 4+ Will Understand

Being a parent of four is quite a challenge. But, if you are a parent of four or more you will completely understand the following list:

1.  You are never alone- the bathroom, your bedroom, the grocery store, you name it and you will never be alone again.

2.  Laundry is a struggle of it's own- having six bodies of clothes is close to impossible. There is ALWAYS laundry to do.

3.  Screaming is normal- The first and second child is normal when they scream. They yell, you yell that is how it works. Come the third and fourth child it just becomes the norm.

4.  Expecting the worst- When you hear, "Mom, guess what?" You automatically just assume the worst. Everything becomes the worst case scenario.

5.  The house is  a war zone- Living with four kids is like living in a frat house. The mess, the laundry, the noise, the chaos.

6. No one can ever decide on what TV channel to watch- Having so many different ages makes picking one show quite impossible. There is always fighting in my house over this. There is not enough TVs in the house to keep everyone happy.

7.  You have to buy four of everything- Christmas, Easter, Valentine's Day just to name a few. Shirts, socks, underwear, how can you only buy for one. You always have to make it even and buy for four.

8.  There is not point in buying any electronics- Not only do you have to buy four of everything but you can never keep up with the latest and greatest.

9.  The grocery bill costs more than life itself- Feeding a family of six is like spending one whole check on one grocery shopping trip.

10.  You can have four favorite kids- It is hard to have a favorite. So, like I tell my girls they are all my favorite.

11.  Alone time isn't a thing- EVER.

12.  Slepp is rare and when you get it it's like heaven- There always seems to be somebody up who needs something.

13.  Work is mandatory- I would love to be a stay at home Mom. There is so much going on every single day but, unfortunately the bills add up and working is a must.

14.  Your last born gets away with murder - If my first born did it I would freak out. By time the fourth one does it you don't even flinch.

15.  I have never seen so much toilet paper in my life- I have to buy more toilet paper in one year than you can imagine.

16.  You can never  have too much wine- Screw therapy. All I need is my wine.

17.  Being lonely is a good thing- There really isn't any such thing as being lonely. Being alone is rare.

18.  There are socks everywhere. Everywhere.- And they don't match!!

19.  Road trips are close to impossible- Getting everybody in one place at the same time is a funny one. Not to mention getting everyone to decide on where to go and how to pack for the trip. Being in the car is a whole other story. One wants music the other wants a DVD. Let's just say road trips are few and far between.

20. Being on time somewhere is just not gonna happen-Never ever.

Monday, March 21, 2016

Rick Springfield Concert #iwishthatiwasjessiesgirl

This past Saturday my husband took me to the most awesome concert. You see it was full circle for me. Rick Springfield was the second concert I have ever been to in my life and now that I am in my 40's I got to go enjoy him again. 

He was absolutely amazing! I loved him back in the day because I was a little girl and he was hot. But now, he is a super great musician and a wonderful storyteller. 

He had five guitars on stage and did the most wonderful story telling I have ever heard. I got to learn where "Jessies's Girl" came from and "Don't Talk To Strangers." Not to mention how he can tell a story. 

I told my husband I think I am more in love with him now than I was in the 80's. He was just just freakin' awesome. If you have the chance, go see him. He does not disappoint. 


Friday, March 18, 2016

Thursday, March 17, 2016

Work Virus

It is Thursday and you know what that's not Friday yet. Hopefully Thursday will be quick about it and Friday will be here at last. Meanwhile, enjoy this funny take on working. 

Wednesday, March 16, 2016

Cherish Every Moment

My youngest and I were sitting on the couch having her read me one of her books and she looks up at  me and asks, "Mommy why aren't you playful anymore?". That one stopped me in my tracks. I looked into her big, beautiful brown eyes and said, "honey, I just don't know".

Her comment really resonated with me and made me think. Why am I no fun anymore? Has my job gotten to me? Has life stress taken away the once "fun" mom from my children?  Am I not living in the moment anymore?

My youngest will only be 8 for a little longer. I need to cherish every moment I get with her. Not to mention my other daughters.  Every day they grown up just a little bit more, before you know it they are grown.

My baby girl gave me some great insight. I need to cherish every moment I have with these beautiful daughters of mine. We are only given so much time until they grow up. 

Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Constantly Learning

There is so much going on online. I get caught up every night just trying to soak it all up. I am hoping I will be able to put it all in my brain and remember everything that I learn. Do you have a trick or any tips on how to keep it all together with your blog?


Monday, March 14, 2016

10 Reasons I Hate Daylight Savings Time

Every time I hear the words "Daylight Savings Time", all I can do is cringe. I know that is it going to mess with my whole family. It is not a welcome day in my house. Here are the 10 reasons why I hate it!

#10.  It messes with time and continuum. We are all walking around asking, "it it really 5 or 6?". It take a few weeks to get over the fact that the time change happened and there is nothing we can do about it. 

#9.  I have to figure out how to change every clock in my house. Most clocks do change on their own, but there is always that one or two that don't. Don't get me started on the dashboard of my car clock. I can never figure that one out and when I do I always forget by time I need to do it again. 

#8.  Trying to get my younger children into bed while it is still daylight out. All parents dread this one. Trying to convince a child to go to bed while it is daylight is almost impossible. Reasoning doesn't work with this one. 

#7.  It has to be on a Monday. Really? It couldn't be on a Friday afternoon?

#6.  Waking up sleeping children on the first day of Daylight Savings. This is quite the feat. After I have failed at #8 and they are already loosing an hour, Monday is just not fun. 

#5.  I can't get to sleep and I can't wake myself up. Talk about giving yourself insomnia. 

#4. I am TIRED. Did I mention I was tired? Since I can't fall asleep and can't seem to wake up I am tired for at least two weeks. 

#3.  My dog doesn't know how to tell time. I now have to train him to go the bathroom at another time in the morning. 

#2. Did I mention I am really tired?

#1.  It is dark when you wake up. This has to be the second worst thing about the hour change. It is  hard enough to get out of bed, but when it is dark it only makes it that much harder. 

Ok, I am going to take a nap now............


Sunday, March 13, 2016

Welcome To My New Blog

I have been blogging since 2010 and decided it was time for a fresh, new look. I also want to change it up a bit and and not only blog about all things parenting but add a few new features to my blog. I am doing a feature called "Letters To My Daughter", all about the ages and stages of which I have raised my girls along with a letter. I also have started a "Blogging" page to add all the tips and hints of blogging that I have learned along the way. I hope you enjoy your stay and make sure to share, comment and come back often!

Thursday, March 10, 2016

Pardon My Dust!

I am in the middle of changing things up. Please pardon my dust. I hope to have everything up and running soon. Please come back every day to see if I am complete!!


Tuesday, March 8, 2016

10 Things No One Ever Told Me Before I Had Kids

I knew from a young age that I wanted to me a  Mommy. As an only child all I ever wanted was to have siblings. Once I got married I wanted kids right away but my husband kept telling me I had to wait until we had a house. So, we bought a house and after a lot of time and trying I was blessed with my first little girl. I never had it easy. I have PCOS and conceiving was near to impossible, but somehow it happened for me. After being told I was infertile I showed them all they were wrong and had a total of four healthy, beautiful baby girls. Here is a list of things that no one ever told me about having children : 

1.  Your heart is worn outside of your body

There is never a time where your heart won't break whether they are 2 or 22. The pain that your child feels you will always feel. 

2. Saying goodbye is never easy

It doesn't matter if it is to Grandma's house, the bus stop or a trip to Italy, it is never easy to let your child go. Even to this day watching my two littlest daughters get on the bus makes me very sad. 

3. A sleeping child is the most beautiful thing in the world

There is just something about a sleeping child, no matter what age brings you peace. 

4. It doesn't get any easier

Just when you think you have got this Motherhood thing in control something else will happen. 

5. Each stage has a new problem

Not getting any sleep seems like the worst in the world. Wait until they are 16 and want drive and date and drive in a car of a new driver. 

6.  Once a Mother, always a Mother

7.  You will never get your body back

Remember when you thought you were overweight? You weren't! After having kids it seems that your body will never go back into the shape it was. You get a "mommy pouch" that is almost impossible to get rid of, not to mention all the other down falls....see below. 

8.  Gravity is not your friend

There is no picture needed for this. Once you start to breast feed they don't tell you that you will never get your boobs back. They sag and they are nothing like what you started with. 

9.  There is life beyond being a Mom

Until I met other Mommy friends I didn't realize there was more to this whole thing. If you don't have Mommy friends, find some! You need to get out without your kids and be who you really are outside of "Mom. Never loose your identify. 

10.  There is never, ever any privacy again!

Bathroom, shower, bedroom, changing they are all in the past. You will loose all privacy you have ever known. Peeping eyes will become the norm. 

The silver lining: It is the best job you will ever have and the most rewarding. 


Monday, March 7, 2016

There Goes My Hero

As a mother it is very hard to trust anyone with our children. There is no one in this world that can possibly take care of them the way you can. There is one exception and that is our bus drivers. Every day we entrust these people to drive our most precious cargo to and from school without incident. 

I think bus drivers are the most under appreciated occupations there are. We all should be entirely grateful to them for all that they do. So, I applaud anyone who is a bus driver and I just want to give a shout out to my children's  bus drivers who keep my children safe every day. Thank you from the bottom of this mother's heart. 


Sunday, March 6, 2016

I Really Need A Day Between #Saturday and #Sunday

Why is it that the week goes by so slow but the weekend goes in fast forward. There is so much to do. Cleaning, laundry, and more laundry, shopping, grocery shopping and whatever activities might be going on. And there is of course, "Mom can you drive me here and there and everywhere!".

The only thing that saves me during the weekend is that #TWD, The Walking Dead is on. I am beyond a huge fan as I have said before. I can't live without my weekly dose of Daryl and Rick. At least I have something to look forward to. I defiantly don't look forward to getting up early and going to work on Monday morning.

I hope you had a great weekend. What gets you through each weekend when you know Monday is about to start again?


Thursday, March 3, 2016

#Motherhood Quotes

As crazy as my life is with four children, I would  never trade it in for the world. I live to be a Mom each and every day. My children are my world. Here are a few quotes I found around the web that sum up how Motherhood makes me feel. 


Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Welcome To Blogging Tips

Welcome to my Blogging Tips section. I would like to share any tips and tricks along the way that I find while I am trying to grow my blog.  Please make sure to share, comment and come back for more posts!

Dear #Facebook

Dear Facebook, 

You are always asking me how I am doing or what I am feeling. It seems to be acceptable if I have won the lottery, have the best husband and kids in the world, bought a new car, or have the best life ever. 

But guess what? None of these pertain to me or probably anybody on Facebook. It has become such a fantasy world for so many people. It is all a lie. Do you want to hear about the real bad day I had at work? Do  you want to hear about my daughter's depression and anxiety and what it is doing to her? What about the temper tantrum my youngest threw today. 

No, I am afraid you want to hear about my "fake" life. I don't do that so I guess you and I will have to part ways. I have had enough of the fake and pretentious people you have made on your site. 

When you get back to reality, look me up. 

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